Comments on: Oh no! I’ve been procrastinating! http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/procrastination/oh-no-ive-been-procrastinating/ Sun, 05 Feb 2012 23:03:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Henriette http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/procrastination/oh-no-ive-been-procrastinating/#comment-1480 Henriette Thu, 18 Sep 2008 23:01:31 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=61#comment-1480 To Kin Kau July 22. Thank you for your post. Telling myself what to do does not work, it sinks in much better coming from another person, ex. You. Thank you. To Kin Kau July 22.
Thank you for your post. Telling myself what to do does not work, it sinks in much better coming from another person, ex. You.
Thank you.

]]> By: Sylvia http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/procrastination/oh-no-ive-been-procrastinating/#comment-973 Sylvia Fri, 01 Aug 2008 13:06:56 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=61#comment-973 Rose Ulch I do not have children and believe me it's not that simple! I'm sure your comments were well meant but, to me, totally meaningless. Rose Ulch

I do not have children and believe me it’s not that simple! I’m sure your comments were well meant but, to me, totally meaningless.

]]> By: Merran Pell http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/procrastination/oh-no-ive-been-procrastinating/#comment-927 Merran Pell Sun, 27 Jul 2008 01:17:41 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=61#comment-927 Can you please forward your emails to me as well. My partner got on to your site recently. Procrastination is a problem I have in some areas and haste is a problem I have in other areas. thankyou. Can you please forward your emails to me as well. My partner got on to your site recently. Procrastination is a problem I have in some areas and haste is a problem I have in other areas. thankyou.

]]> By: Rose Ulch http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/procrastination/oh-no-ive-been-procrastinating/#comment-907 Rose Ulch Thu, 24 Jul 2008 10:51:38 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=61#comment-907 To Henriette and Sylvia... Let me tell you a story. My mother had alzheimers and when she finally was hospitalized the governement took over her estate. They went into her three bedroom apartment (packed from wall to wall and ceiling to floor) and destroyed all of the locks on suitcases, cedar chest, and rifled through everything looking for valuables. It was a mess by the time us kids finally arrived to collect the items that was listed in her will. Yes that is right...will. The trustee that was assigned to her stated that now that she was incapable of looking after herself, her will kicks in and we could take what was stated and what we wanted. He told us that if there was any disagreement, we would be asked to leave. period. We would get nothing. The smartest thing that my mother did was to (when of sound mind) give to her children, the prize posessions, family heirlooms and such. Now when I look back, 4 years now. I have my grandmother's topaz ring, silver tea service and the memories of having tea with my mom as a little girl, using that tea set. Trust me in saying this, give to your children before ... It will clear the clutter out of your house, and keep you from again gathering too much stuff. Rose in Canada To Henriette and Sylvia… Let me tell you a story. My mother had alzheimers and when she finally was hospitalized the governement took over her estate. They went into her three bedroom apartment (packed from wall to wall and ceiling to floor) and destroyed all of the locks on suitcases, cedar chest, and rifled through everything looking for valuables.

It was a mess by the time us kids finally arrived to collect the items that was listed in her will. Yes that is right…will. The trustee that was assigned to her stated that now that she was incapable of looking after herself, her will kicks in and we could take what was stated and what we wanted. He told us that if there was any disagreement, we would be asked to leave. period. We would get nothing.

The smartest thing that my mother did was to (when of sound mind) give to her children, the prize posessions, family heirlooms and such. Now when I look back, 4 years now. I have my grandmother’s topaz ring, silver tea service and the memories of having tea with my mom as a little girl, using that tea set.

Trust me in saying this, give to your children before … It will clear the clutter out of your house, and keep you from again gathering too much stuff.

Rose in Canada

]]> By: chris http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/procrastination/oh-no-ive-been-procrastinating/#comment-880 chris Tue, 22 Jul 2008 14:51:28 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=61#comment-880 Anthony, your writing style has improved tremendously over the last year. I don't just mean the little typing errors eradicated... It is now much tighter and more readable. I couldn't say whether you have been working on this or whether it has just happened, but congrats! Anthony, your writing style has improved tremendously over the last year. I don’t just mean the little typing errors eradicated… It is now much tighter and more readable. I couldn’t say whether you have been working on this or whether it has just happened, but congrats!

]]> By: Sylvia http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/procrastination/oh-no-ive-been-procrastinating/#comment-879 Sylvia Tue, 22 Jul 2008 13:30:34 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=61#comment-879 Henriette I know how you feel; I have the same problem. Every word in your blog could have been written by me - except I'm 61! Ever thought, we've reached all our goals - at least the ones that really matter - so what the hell? Maybe that would be the case, if it weren't for the last line, "Oh, I hate being me..." I think we could both do with an Analyst! Alternatively, we could be our own analyst and question what really motivates us to be as we are: what are we avoiding? or as Oprah Winfrey might say, "What's the pay off?" Henriette

I know how you feel; I have the same problem. Every word in your blog could have been written by me - except I’m 61!

Ever thought, we’ve reached all our goals - at least the ones that really matter - so what the hell?

Maybe that would be the case, if it weren’t for the last line, “Oh, I hate being me…”

I think we could both do with an Analyst! Alternatively, we could be our own analyst and question what really motivates us to be as we are: what are we avoiding? or as Oprah Winfrey might say, “What’s the pay off?”

]]> By: Henriette http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/procrastination/oh-no-ive-been-procrastinating/#comment-878 Henriette Tue, 22 Jul 2008 11:28:10 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=61#comment-878 Seven years ago i moved house. Fearing a bout of depression (before the move, one is so buzy, one gets on a high - after the move one gets "down" with doubts, was it a good move or a mistake ? ) i decided to immediately join diverse activities, mostly in volonteering, to make new acquaintances and get the illusion of being useful. .. After seven years i have not yet found a "right" place for everything.. As i go to garage sales (mostly as a means of meeting people) i am often adding to my treasures.. i live in a jumble, cleaning is becoming more and more difficult, and i waste a lot of time searching for items. My "excuse" ? i am 77 years old. But what a job for my daughters when they'll have to clean up the junk ! Sometimes in the night i have panic attacks and then think : "Tomorrow i want to do nothing other than tiding up" but tomorrow passes and i fall asleep on my chair.. From your messages i gather that i should do an "approximate" job first, and then refine it, drawer after drawer, box after box... inch by inch.. Anyway, thank you, for lifting my morale.. i'm not the one and only procrastinator after all.. What does my "junk" consist of ? Papers and magazines cuttings, "i want to read this article, but i don't have time right now, cut it up and read it tomorrow" it is amazing how the piles grow. Outgrown clothes, not good enough to give away, and yet i feel guilty if i throw them away... Oh, i hate being me ! i want to become ANOTHER me !!! Seven years ago i moved house. Fearing a bout of depression (before the move, one is so buzy, one gets on a high - after the move one gets “down” with doubts, was it a good move or a mistake ? ) i decided to immediately join diverse activities, mostly in volonteering, to make new acquaintances and get the illusion of being useful.
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After seven years i have not yet found a “right” place for everything.. As i go to garage sales (mostly as a means of meeting people) i am often adding to my treasures.. i live in a jumble, cleaning is becoming more and more difficult, and i waste a lot of time searching for items.

My “excuse” ? i am 77 years old. But what a job for my daughters when they’ll have to clean up the junk ! Sometimes in the night i have panic attacks and then think : “Tomorrow i want to do nothing other than tiding up” but tomorrow passes and i fall asleep on my chair..

From your messages i gather that i should do an “approximate” job first, and then refine it, drawer after drawer, box after box… inch by inch..
Anyway, thank you, for lifting my morale.. i’m not the one and only procrastinator after all..

What does my “junk” consist of ? Papers and magazines cuttings, “i want to read this article, but i don’t have time right now, cut it up and read it tomorrow” it is amazing how the piles grow. Outgrown clothes, not good enough to give away, and yet i feel guilty if i throw them away…
Oh, i hate being me ! i want to become ANOTHER me !!!

]]> By: D. Marie http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/procrastination/oh-no-ive-been-procrastinating/#comment-876 D. Marie Tue, 22 Jul 2008 02:01:50 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=61#comment-876 Speaking of perfectionism......and perhaps it was intentional to see if anyone would notice, but I believe there is an error in spelling in your message....."let me hold my hand up 'hear' " - I believe it should be "here." My best approach is to decide which matters are "presenting" as priorities each day, and I turn my attention to them first. It is decisive action to do something about things that I may have been procrastinating on for some reason, and that reason simply does not matter - it is the action of moving to do something about it that matters most. Hope this helps! Speaking of perfectionism……and perhaps it was intentional to see if anyone would notice, but I believe there is an error in spelling in your message…..”let me hold my hand up ‘hear’ ” - I believe it should be “here.”

My best approach is to decide which matters are “presenting” as priorities each day, and I turn my attention to them first. It is decisive action to do something about things that I may have been procrastinating on for some reason, and that reason simply does not matter - it is the action of moving to do something about it that matters most. Hope this helps!

]]> By: Kin Lau http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/procrastination/oh-no-ive-been-procrastinating/#comment-875 Kin Lau Tue, 22 Jul 2008 01:18:03 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=61#comment-875 Thank you to have this blog, I really enjoy reading your updates and feedback from others. About procrastination, we all did that to a certain exten. The main reason I putting things off is when I'm not clear what to do for that task, or feel that task is hard to complete. Recently I use this tips to stop procrastinatoin : 1. Write all task I want to complete that day. 2. Pick the most easy task 3. Concentrate 15 mins to do that task, it could be more planning, starting off right away, looking for other resources etc. and mental think I don't care about how my result will turn out to be, but I'm giving this 15 for start. I usually find the task is not as hard as I thought, or that can be just complete in a very short time. and I feel great after that. Thank you to have this blog, I really enjoy reading your updates and feedback from others. About procrastination, we all did that to a certain exten. The main reason I putting things off is when I’m not clear what to do for that task, or feel that task is hard to complete. Recently I use this tips to stop procrastinatoin : 1. Write all task I want to complete that day. 2. Pick the most easy task 3. Concentrate 15 mins to do that task, it could be more planning, starting off right away, looking for other resources etc. and mental think I don’t care about how my result will turn out to be, but I’m giving this 15 for start. I usually find the task is not as hard as I thought, or that can be just complete in a very short time. and I feel great after that.

]]> By: Elisa Jakymin http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/procrastination/oh-no-ive-been-procrastinating/#comment-874 Elisa Jakymin Mon, 21 Jul 2008 22:18:40 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=61#comment-874 Thank you so much for your honest blog! As a Year 12 Student, I am constantly putting things off due to fear that what I will produce will not be perfect. I have always been a bit of a perfectionist, but as this is my final year of school and everything counts, I have brainwashed myself into thinking that everything needs to be just perfect! I will take your blog into consideration everytime I sit down to do work. Your best blog yet! Thank you so much for your honest blog!

As a Year 12 Student, I am constantly putting things off due to fear that what I will produce will not be perfect. I have always been a bit of a perfectionist, but as this is my final year of school and everything counts, I have brainwashed myself into thinking that everything needs to be just perfect!

I will take your blog into consideration everytime I sit down to do work.

Your best blog yet!

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