Comments on: Those annoying little errors, http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/personal-development/would-you-prefer-to-work-on-your-goals-or%e2%80%a6/ Tue, 07 Feb 2012 23:55:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Jolie http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/personal-development/would-you-prefer-to-work-on-your-goals-or%e2%80%a6/#comment-152 Jolie Sun, 20 Apr 2008 12:28:15 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=46#comment-152 I really connect with this post. Since KINDERGARDEN, I have been a person who refuses to do things unless she KNOWS she can excell. Two perfect examples are (from childhood) waiting two years to sign up for softball with the rest of the girls in my grade because of fear of failure, and (from adulthood, and current) refusing to by a bike and start cycling with my boyfriend because I'm sure I'd look ridiculous and underperform. This has been a life-long struggle, and one that I'm only recently acknowledging enough to say, "What the hell, get on the bike. If you look ridiculous, you should right now. If you don't, quit your job and look to go pro!" I also used to make myself physically sick over the idea of trying something new and then regret for years my lack of bravery. Now, even though I still wish I had been even this clear-minded before, I'm much less likely to look back with regret than to say, "Okay, but that's over. What do you want to do know that makes you anxious, afraid of failure?" I actually have a list (that's ever growing) and am slowly (but surely!) checking off and challenging myself. I really connect with this post. Since KINDERGARDEN, I have been a person who refuses to do things unless she KNOWS she can excell. Two perfect examples are (from childhood) waiting two years to sign up for softball with the rest of the girls in my grade because of fear of failure, and (from adulthood, and current) refusing to by a bike and start cycling with my boyfriend because I’m sure I’d look ridiculous and underperform. This has been a life-long struggle, and one that I’m only recently acknowledging enough to say, “What the hell, get on the bike. If you look ridiculous, you should right now. If you don’t, quit your job and look to go pro!”

I also used to make myself physically sick over the idea of trying something new and then regret for years my lack of bravery. Now, even though I still wish I had been even this clear-minded before, I’m much less likely to look back with regret than to say, “Okay, but that’s over. What do you want to do know that makes you anxious, afraid of failure?” I actually have a list (that’s ever growing) and am slowly (but surely!) checking off and challenging myself.

]]> By: Sital http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/personal-development/would-you-prefer-to-work-on-your-goals-or%e2%80%a6/#comment-135 Sital Wed, 16 Apr 2008 22:53:52 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=46#comment-135 Ay up Anth! I have never been great with detail - it's always been one of my achilles heals through my proffessional life But not anymore! In recent years I have got into the "completion not perfection" mindset - if an article seems 80% right, i just go with it, rather than perfecting it. If i have an idea that feels right, we just start it and figure the details out later. I send an email the minute i get an idea or an instinct rather than thinking and overplanning an idea. And if there is a typo in the email (as there very often is), i dont care! Of course i check and check again before sending, but if there is still an error, it really is not important to me and so dont let it eat into my self esteem by knocking myself as i used to years ago (because that just makes you make more mistakes and produce less!) Over the last couple of years, i have just accepted that:- a) detail and grammer is not my unique ability (i will never be great at it, and its not something i get about) b) Precision and accuracy are not high on my list of values (ie i dont think they're that important) c) Wherease making a difference to others, being creative, solving problems and being a catalyst for change are very high up my list of values So holding back and over perfecting both stifles me and means i dont do my genius work (ie the work that is my 'calling'. the work i am naturally talented at) But when writing articles / ebooks it is an issue and the output is important to me as i dont want to appear unprofessional - so yes, i now have a proof reader check all 'official writing.' But sometimes an urgent deadline means i have to proof myself and something gets missed. Well so be it, i;d rather someone get the value of my ideas than it be sitting in my computer waiting to be perfected So when it comes to whether you 'need' a proof reader or not, the question should be:- 1. Is this really important to me (i.e. typos) 2. Is it my unique ability (being gramatically accurate) those people that truly have an issue with typos etc are people that really place huge value on precision, perfection and detail - which is entirely their their pregogative (spelt wrong!). If they have a real issue with your errors or writing style they will self select and go find a coach who has similar values as them So when you get emails of this type, I often think its best to just press the delete button and think about all 9,998 readers who were so grateful for the gifts you bring (ideas, tips, inspiration) rather than typo in the vehicle (your writing) that brought delivered the gift.... S p.s. if there is a typo in the above text - i dont care!! ;o) Ay up Anth!

I have never been great with detail - it’s always been one of my achilles heals through my proffessional life

But not anymore!

In recent years I have got into the “completion not perfection” mindset - if an article seems 80% right, i just go with it, rather than perfecting it. If i have an idea that feels right, we just start it and figure the details out later.

I send an email the minute i get an idea or an instinct rather than thinking and overplanning an idea. And if there is a typo in the email (as there very often is), i dont care!

Of course i check and check again before sending, but if there is still an error, it really is not important to me and so dont let it eat into my self esteem by knocking myself as i used to years ago (because that just makes you make more mistakes and produce less!)

Over the last couple of years, i have just accepted that:-

a) detail and grammer is not my unique ability (i will never be great at it, and its not something i get about)
b) Precision and accuracy are not high on my list of values (ie i dont think they’re that important)
c) Wherease making a difference to others, being creative, solving problems and being a catalyst for change are very high up my list of values

So holding back and over perfecting both stifles me and means i dont do my genius work (ie the work that is my ‘calling’. the work i am naturally talented at)

But when writing articles / ebooks it is an issue and the output is important to me as i dont want to appear unprofessional - so yes, i now have a proof reader check all ‘official writing.’ But sometimes an urgent deadline means i have to proof myself and something gets missed. Well so be it, i;d rather someone get the value of my ideas than it be sitting in my computer waiting to be perfected

So when it comes to whether you ‘need’ a proof reader or not, the question should be:-

1. Is this really important to me (i.e. typos)
2. Is it my unique ability (being gramatically accurate)

those people that truly have an issue with typos etc are people that really place huge value on precision, perfection and detail - which is entirely their their pregogative (spelt wrong!). If they have a real issue with your errors or writing style they will self select and go find a coach who has similar values as them

So when you get emails of this type, I often think its best to just press the delete button and think about all 9,998 readers who were so grateful for the gifts you bring (ideas, tips, inspiration) rather than typo in the vehicle (your writing) that brought delivered the gift….

S

p.s. if there is a typo in the above text - i dont care!!
;o)

]]> By: Caro http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/personal-development/would-you-prefer-to-work-on-your-goals-or%e2%80%a6/#comment-127 Caro Tue, 15 Apr 2008 18:26:22 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=46#comment-127 I'm with Valerie - I think its important to give yourself permission to make mistakes. I've got a new career, with Anth's help, and I would normally be very stressed by making mistakes in this new job where I have so much to prove. Working with Anth has adjusted my attitude - I do my best but I know I have so much to learn that mistakes will happen. I make note of them & try not to make the same mistake again (note the 'try'). I’m with Valerie - I think its important to give yourself permission to make mistakes. I’ve got a new career, with Anth’s help, and I would normally be very stressed by making mistakes in this new job where I have so much to prove. Working with Anth has adjusted my attitude - I do my best but I know I have so much to learn that mistakes will happen. I make note of them & try not to make the same mistake again (note the ‘try’).

]]> By: Chris http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/personal-development/would-you-prefer-to-work-on-your-goals-or%e2%80%a6/#comment-125 Chris Tue, 15 Apr 2008 10:06:27 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=46#comment-125 Let's try our best to get stuff right. Let's forgive ourselves our mistakes where possible, but let's not pretend that it doesn't matter. If you are providing a service to the public it matters. It matters if you are a surgeon or a mechanic or a counsellor. And let's not be so busy that we can't ask for help in areas where we are unsure. I would like my surgeon, mechanic or financial adviser to do just that. If on the other hand we are creating a macrame antimacassar for our own pleasure, I think we can allow leeway in the execution. Let’s try our best to get stuff right. Let’s forgive ourselves our mistakes where possible, but let’s not pretend that it doesn’t matter. If you are providing a service to the public it matters. It matters if you are a surgeon or a mechanic or a counsellor. And let’s not be so busy that we can’t ask for help in areas where we are unsure. I would like my surgeon, mechanic or financial adviser to do just that.
If on the other hand we are creating a macrame antimacassar for our own pleasure, I think we can allow leeway in the execution.

]]> By: Thea http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/personal-development/would-you-prefer-to-work-on-your-goals-or%e2%80%a6/#comment-122 Thea Mon, 14 Apr 2008 11:33:03 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=46#comment-122 Yes, go for it, particularly in a forum like this where it's about exchange, getting the thoughts down and out there so that people can build on the ideas, respond and take away what they need. I find the 80% rule helpful - going for perfection, that last 20% achievement might take 80% of the time of the whole task. Is it worth it or better to get it out there and then learn from the feedback? Depends on the task, but can be a helpful guideline when the search for perfection is leading you into procrastination. Cheers Thea Yes, go for it, particularly in a forum like this where it’s about exchange, getting the thoughts down and out there so that people can build on the ideas, respond and take away what they need. I find the 80% rule helpful - going for perfection, that last 20% achievement might take 80% of the time of the whole task. Is it worth it or better to get it out there and then learn from the feedback? Depends on the task, but can be a helpful guideline when the search for perfection is leading you into procrastination.
Cheers
Thea

]]> By: michelle http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/personal-development/would-you-prefer-to-work-on-your-goals-or%e2%80%a6/#comment-121 michelle Mon, 14 Apr 2008 11:23:04 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=46#comment-121 Ditto to all of the above comments. It is your heart and passion that gets beyond those little errors...Thanks for your help. May your day and those behind the comments be filled with blessings from an open heaven... Embrace Life Ditto to all of the above comments. It is your heart and passion that gets beyond those little errors…Thanks for your help.
May your day and those behind the comments be filled with blessings from an open heaven…
Embrace Life

]]> By: Joanne http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/personal-development/would-you-prefer-to-work-on-your-goals-or%e2%80%a6/#comment-116 Joanne Sun, 13 Apr 2008 00:38:54 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=46#comment-116 Hi Anthony, I have enjoyed your insightful messages and have gained a better outlook because of them. As far as the errors go, maybe a friend can read over your e-mails to pick up and error or two. I do believe we are all human and will ALWAYS make mistakes in one form or another. I work with doctors and they make errors in their electronic medical record notes all the time. Maybe we make more errors when typing because our brain goes faster then our fingers. Keep up the good work. I haven't heard of the 12 mistakes and then 12 more but I like it. Thank you! Hi Anthony,

I have enjoyed your insightful messages and have gained a better outlook because of them. As far as the errors go, maybe a friend can read over your e-mails to pick up and error or two. I do believe we are all human and will ALWAYS make mistakes in one form or another. I work with doctors and they make errors in their electronic medical record notes all the time. Maybe we make more errors when typing because our brain goes faster then our fingers. Keep up the good work. I haven’t heard of the 12 mistakes and then 12 more but I like it.
Thank you!

]]> By: Jasmine http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/personal-development/would-you-prefer-to-work-on-your-goals-or%e2%80%a6/#comment-111 Jasmine Fri, 11 Apr 2008 19:25:24 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=46#comment-111 Dear Anthony, I enjoy your messages a great deal..... Even if the language is occasionally idiosyncratic..... it adds to the charm of the content. What I particularly enjoy is the authenticity of the writer, his humanity and goodness and light that ooze out from between the words..... I feel these coming to me from another realm altogether, where grammar and punctuation are pretty much useless.... for all that is perceived is vibrational......and these are apprehended by my entire being.... not just by my analytical rational intellectual faculty..... As such, they belong to the realm of Reality and not the realm of Illusion…… For all of this I am very grateful.... With much respect and appreciation....... Jasmine Dear Anthony,

I enjoy your messages a great deal….. Even if the language is occasionally idiosyncratic….. it adds to the charm of the content. What I particularly enjoy is the authenticity of the writer, his humanity and goodness and light that ooze out from between the words….. I feel these coming to me from another realm altogether, where grammar and punctuation are pretty much useless…. for all that is perceived is vibrational……and these are apprehended by my entire being…. not just by my analytical rational intellectual faculty….. As such, they belong to the realm of Reality and not the realm of Illusion…… For all of this I am very grateful….

With much respect and appreciation…….
Jasmine

]]> By: valerie http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/personal-development/would-you-prefer-to-work-on-your-goals-or%e2%80%a6/#comment-109 valerie Fri, 11 Apr 2008 16:12:14 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=46#comment-109 I have heard it said "You're allowed 12 mistakes a day" and after that "get on with it, and you"re allowed 12 more" !! It got me to thinking - that is a lot of mistakes! Could I actually make that many mistakes a day?? It seems to lighten things up for me, and actually give me , for lack of better word, "permission" to try, and do things. I am so encouraged by the thoughts and words that are printed on this site. As I have stated before - this is "Real" Our true character is allowed to "shine", and how we react to the bright light- well,that is our choice! I have heard it said “You’re allowed 12 mistakes a day” and after that “get on with it, and you”re allowed 12 more” !! It got me to thinking - that is a lot of mistakes! Could I actually make that many mistakes a day?? It seems to lighten things up for me, and actually give me , for lack of better word, “permission” to try, and do things.

I am so encouraged by the thoughts and words that are printed on this site.

As I have stated before - this is “Real” Our true character is allowed to “shine”, and how we react to the bright light- well,that is our choice!

]]> By: Carrie http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/personal-development/would-you-prefer-to-work-on-your-goals-or%e2%80%a6/#comment-108 Carrie Fri, 11 Apr 2008 12:17:06 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=46#comment-108 Hello.. Well we are not perfect ..we all make mistakes and by learning from them we grow.I find it sad that in all your wise words ,all people can do is find the faults.. They are every where and in everything .. I've not seen any mistakes in your wirting just the words and how they affect me . Thank you for all your Help Anth. Keep up the good work .. Hello..
Well we are not perfect ..we all make mistakes and by learning from them we grow.I find it sad that in all your wise words ,all people can do is find the faults.. They are every where and in everything .. I’ve not seen any mistakes in your wirting just the words and how they affect me . Thank you for all your Help Anth. Keep up the good work ..

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