The ultimate goal whatever it might be ( a great and rewarding occupation, my own boss, no worries about money or wealthy beyond my dreams) is a huge goal, break it down into smaller chunks and take action on the little chunks. In achieving each little task you will feel the reward of achievement which will fuel the process of ongoing change. Doing this whilst in your existing job or situation gives you room to change without facing the huge goal directly. Every time you go to your unfullfilling job and have negative experiences there you think “this is just fueling my real goal, being here or doing this is just a step to my real goal”; more positive reinforcement, more reward. Reward for something you don’t like, how good is that. and it is self perpetuating. You are adapting your subconcious mind and the process snowballs. It works, try it.

Steve

At present, I feel like a ball of snow that is rolling down a hill, getting bigger as it rolls. I have been on disability for a year, and am in “Research and Development” ( I like that better than saying- “I am a sucker for every online network marketing scheme and opportunity out there!”) - which has been the truth; But I have finally been introduced to an opportunity that is motivating me, is fun, and the potential is huge. But then “Me, Myself and I” gets in the way -with my thinking!!
And you guessed it, the snowball keeps rolling! Is it going to hit an obstacle,or maybe get run over, or even melt( as the snowmen that the kids made last month, did).

So , what exactly is the “Tool” I am a visual person - what is the right “tool” , the act of relacing the word “OR” with “AND”?
What tool do I need to pick up as I proceed to prepare, and plant my vegatable garden?

I am taking a Web making course, plus starting an online venture, and a friend wants to sign up with my venture (which she likes) and I can sign up with her venture- which she is estatic about.

So many opportunities— WOW , I was just going to put the word “but” in this sentence, I think I am getting it as I type! rephrase—-” So many opportunities AND I am working on my Web Course, getting caught up with the past 4 lessons And I Am journalling the progress that I am making with my new venture.

Best Go- my work awaits! Time to put the carrot nose and top hat on “Frosty” - I feel the snow ball has stopped rolling, I think I will keep it and make a beautifull snowman !!

I really do appreciate your situation and nobody said it was easy; I’m not a happy clappy positive thinker. Of course it’s easier said than done.

What I am saying here is that once you begin recognise the possibility of getting a job you love AND earning even more money than you are currently you can begin to explore possible options.

Are you really saying that there are no jobs that you would enjoy that pay as much (if not more) as your current job?

I’m not suggesting walking out of your job; like I said make it easier on yourself. You may choose to study part-time, you may have to set up a part-time business, but do something – begin to explore your options, get creative and get to work on your plan.

Believe me I am not saying it’s always easy to break out of your thinking, but it’s a lot easier than the pain of accepting your lot, or waiting for someone else to decide for you.

Imagine waking up in 5 years to find you’ve been made redundant. In fact there’s a thought for you – If you woke up in 5 years and found you HAD to change careers, how would you wish you’d prepared over the intervening 5 years? And when will you get started?

All the best,

Anth.

Great tips and emails though Anth….very thought provoking and real discussion builders. Thanks