Comments on: Are all motives equal? http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/motivation/are-all-motives-equal/ Sun, 05 Feb 2012 22:49:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Karen Bell http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/motivation/are-all-motives-equal/#comment-604 Karen Bell Mon, 09 Jun 2008 03:20:25 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=45#comment-604 Anth, I so despise the idea that WE are responsible for all that happens in our lives. Much of it, I do agree, is in how we respond to stimuli. However, we did not cause the stimuli. For example, take the case of a little girl getting shot by mistake during a drive by. Take, for example, the Jews getting exterminated during the Holocaust, or the African Americans being enslaved and their families separated. Tell me how did THEY cause what happened to them? How could thy NOT blame the perpetrators. Anth, I so despise the idea that WE are responsible for all that happens in our lives. Much of it, I do agree, is in how we respond to stimuli. However, we did not cause the stimuli. For example, take the case of a little girl getting shot by mistake during a drive by. Take, for example, the Jews getting exterminated during the Holocaust, or the African Americans being enslaved and their families separated. Tell me how did THEY cause what happened to them? How could thy NOT blame the perpetrators.

]]> By: Autumn http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/motivation/are-all-motives-equal/#comment-71 Autumn Sat, 05 Apr 2008 17:37:20 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=45#comment-71 I guess I never analysized this process before but I can see where spending some time on why we don't get more motivated is helpful because it causes us to be more successful. Thanks for the information. Autumn I guess I never analysized this process before but I can see where spending some time on why we don’t get more motivated is helpful because it causes us to be more successful. Thanks for the information.

Autumn

]]> By: Katie Coyne http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/motivation/are-all-motives-equal/#comment-66 Katie Coyne Thu, 03 Apr 2008 13:15:02 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=45#comment-66 HI again, I guess that the changes that i choose to live by are the only ones that i am accountable for, and i must say that i do sleep well at night, Cheers Katie HI again, I guess that the changes that i choose to live by are the only ones that i am accountable for, and i must say that i do sleep well at night,
Cheers Katie

]]> By: Katie Coyne http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/motivation/are-all-motives-equal/#comment-65 Katie Coyne Thu, 03 Apr 2008 13:12:04 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=45#comment-65 Hi Anthony, I look forwards to you words as they do comfort me after a long day at work. I feel that i am a motivated person, but as i work in a disfunctional team it is very hard to stay motivated. I love my job, but as you would know, it is quite difficult to make change. The majority of people that i work with absolutely hate the thought of change. I have attempted to suggest little change that would simplify all our work load and have hit a brick wall. But i must state that the elderly people that i work with know that they are loved. Thank you Anthony Hi Anthony,

I look forwards to you words as they do comfort me after a long day at work. I feel that i am a motivated person, but as i work in a disfunctional team it is very hard to stay motivated.

I love my job, but as you would know, it is quite difficult to make change. The majority of people that i work with absolutely hate the thought of change. I have attempted to suggest little change that would simplify all our work load and have hit a brick wall. But i must state that the elderly people that i work with know that they are loved.

Thank you Anthony

]]> By: Jo http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/motivation/are-all-motives-equal/#comment-62 Jo Tue, 01 Apr 2008 21:07:28 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=45#comment-62 As always true words, thanks Anth. I have often struggled with being motivated to "do things" but not always in a particular direction. I have also always been a "list maker" and a few years back I learnt that writing down wants and goals was a sure fire way to encourage myself towards them, however it is very easy to make a big list of lots of little things, maybe this is more about procrastination than motivation! At any rate, I think it works all ways - if you focus on something, good or bad (to or from), it will be brought into your realm and so it does pay to try and be clear about what you are trying to achieve from your motivation. I have found that establishing a wishlist is a great way to start things rolling because knowing what you want can often be the hardest step in the process! Blessed be, Anth, your emails are always appreciated! As always true words, thanks Anth. I have often struggled with being motivated to “do things” but not always in a particular direction. I have also always been a “list maker” and a few years back I learnt that writing down wants and goals was a sure fire way to encourage myself towards them, however it is very easy to make a big list of lots of little things, maybe this is more about procrastination than motivation! At any rate, I think it works all ways - if you focus on something, good or bad (to or from), it will be brought into your realm and so it does pay to try and be clear about what you are trying to achieve from your motivation. I have found that establishing a wishlist is a great way to start things rolling because knowing what you want can often be the hardest step in the process! Blessed be, Anth, your emails are always appreciated!

]]> By: Marian http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/motivation/are-all-motives-equal/#comment-61 Marian Tue, 01 Apr 2008 20:09:40 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=45#comment-61 Great explanation of the process Anth. It's linking into what we WANT that seems so hard for a lot of people. So many just react to what is happening rather than making it happen for themselves Marian Great explanation of the process Anth.
It’s linking into what we WANT that seems so hard for a lot of people. So many just react to what is happening rather than making it happen for themselves

Marian

]]> By: Kenny G http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/motivation/are-all-motives-equal/#comment-60 Kenny G Tue, 01 Apr 2008 17:17:20 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=45#comment-60 Motivation is the key to bring all ends to ones means! Keep Up The Great Work Motivation is the key to bring all ends to ones means!
Keep Up The Great Work

]]> By: Thea http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/motivation/are-all-motives-equal/#comment-59 Thea Tue, 01 Apr 2008 15:37:35 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=45#comment-59 Good ideas on how to gently transfer 'away from' goals into 'moving towards' goals. I find I can be very strongly in a 'moving towards' space, but with lack of attention/time this can slip and I am in a space needing to motivate from pain again. I have always found it hard to really pinpoint what it is I positively want (very much an all rounder Sagi who will happily turn her hand to anything), but recently realised that I do in fact know what will make me happy - it's just a bit hidden. The 'I am' statements from the last post will help I think, as does keeping the enquiry open and trusting the answers to float to the surface and your idea Anth of balancing what you don't want with statements about what you would prefer. Enjoy checking in with you guys. Thea Good ideas on how to gently transfer ‘away from’ goals into ‘moving towards’ goals. I find I can be very strongly in a ‘moving towards’ space, but with lack of attention/time this can slip and I am in a space needing to motivate from pain again. I have always found it hard to really pinpoint what it is I positively want (very much an all rounder Sagi who will happily turn her hand to anything), but recently realised that I do in fact know what will make me happy - it’s just a bit hidden. The ‘I am’ statements from the last post will help I think, as does keeping the enquiry open and trusting the answers to float to the surface and your idea Anth of balancing what you don’t want with statements about what you would prefer. Enjoy checking in with you guys. Thea

]]> By: Lois http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/motivation/are-all-motives-equal/#comment-57 Lois Tue, 01 Apr 2008 15:24:27 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=45#comment-57 Anth, As always very insightful. Thank you very much. Lois Anth,
As always very insightful. Thank you very much. Lois

]]> By: Irene http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/motivation/are-all-motives-equal/#comment-56 Irene Tue, 01 Apr 2008 14:53:04 +0000 http://empiricalcoaching.com/blog/?p=45#comment-56 This is most helpful in clarifying how to focus on making clear what you want. Thanks Irene This is most helpful in clarifying how to focus on making clear what you want.

Thanks

Irene

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